What would you do if men had a curfew?

If men had a curfew

The other day I was sitting with a group of wonderful women and one of them posed the question…

“What would you do if men had a 9pm curfew?”

Such a simple question and yet so powerful. Just thinking about this brought about immediate physical and emotional changes. My stomach relaxed, my soul lightened, and I felt free. Wow! What would I do if I knew nothing bad would happen to me?

I would go for a walk at night

I would sleep with all the windows open

I would sleep outside

I would dress differently

I would do more things alone at night

I would park farther away

This simple question made me realize how much I live in fear of men. How much I tailor my life to avoid conflict, unwanted attention, and potential assault. I knew it to some extent but I hadn’t been really aware of how much I limit my life because of that fear. It’s like an invisible jail constructed of emotions.


This is where that jail comes from; messages received as children and reinforced by people like the so called “First Lady” who tells women not to report assault with out evidence, but men assaulted by priests as children are readily believed and actions are taken.


What can we do? (because without having choices we continue to feel victimized)

  1. Believe and support victims
  2. Speak up/Speak out
  3. Ask the good men in our lives to speak up and join us
  4. Support groups such as PAVE (Promoting Awareness Victim Empowerment) to help “shatter the silence of sexual violence”.

PAVE on Facebook

PAVE website

So, I ask you again…. What would you do if men had a 9pm curfew?


My purpose in life is to help empower women of all ages to be their best and most loved self. These girls are my inspiration! They are strong, beautiful, funny, charismatic, and empowered to take on the world. Hockey (and their parents) gave that to them.

These young women are champions on and off the ice. This is my tribute to them and all that they have taught me!

Tumeric Face Mask


Today I decided to try a “Tumeric Face Mask for Glowing Skin” that Dr Axe promoted in a newsletter. Here is my experience…

My skin is very sensitive so I like trying remedies that are all natural or that I can make at home.  The ingredients in this face mask are:

  • ½ teaspoon turmeric powderphn-1334
  • ½ teaspoon organic apple cider vinegar
  • 1 tablespoon of organic, raw, local honey
  • ½ teaspoon milk or yogurt
  • [optional] 1 drop lemon essential oil or fresh lemon juice for additional skin brightening




What I like about this face mask is that it tastes good. So when it gets in my mouth, its not the end of the world.

I also have super sensitive skin and I am hoping this concoction will not irritate my skin. Otherwise, I will have to go into repair mode to reduce the reactivity.





So, I left it on for 15 minutes. It was easy to rinse off.  So is my skin brighter or “glowing”?

How the heck am I supposed to tell when all I can see is orange?

I got orange stain around my mouth and forehead, mostly.  My face no longer matches my neck.  It’s like a self-tanner gone bad.


So what did I learn? 

  1. Tumeric stains, even on a well-exfoliated face.
  2. Never do a test on your face when you have a meeting
  3. Never do a test on your face when you are planning on recording video.
  4. Do a test run on an inconspicuous area first.
  5. I have sensitive skin to even kitchen ingredients.


I hope this wears off fast. I have a workshop on Saturday…oh, the explaining I will have to do.

My advice: don’t do this face mask UNLESS you want an orange tan. Then go for it!

Have a great weekend!








Hockey Mom T

Years ago I created a hockey mom design for t-shirts. I all but forgot about it until I got an email from Spreadshirt.com that someone had ordered one.

This design brings back memories of our youth hockey days:

  • spending 5-7 days/week in rinks
  • hanging out with my hockey family
  • driving insane distances for Jordan to play a game, tournaments, competitions, and camps
  • equipment
  • skates sharpened
  • tape, tape, tape

The design was created from a photo of Jordan when she was about 10. The silhouette hides this fact. So really when I see this design, it reminds me of her in her younger days and how those experiences prepared her for the prep and college world of women’s hockey.

So I decided to update the products availble on Spreadshirt.com that have my design. I hope I did it correctly.

If you are a hockey mom or know one who is fabulous and keeps it all together, check out the t-shirt.

We are definitely a special breed!

Here’s to you!

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Create yours now:  Hockey Mom

The Reset


Decisions. Decisions. Chocolate or Fruit?

“RESET” has been a theme lately for me and I think it may be a key to making progress on our goals. Here’s why…

I recently started going to the gym every morning at 5am. It turns out to be a great time for me because I am already an early riser and go to bed early. I get my exercise in before the kids get up and the exercise does not cut into my work time. When I exercise in the morning, I have more energy, I make better eating choices, I can think more clearly, I am focused, and I am more efficient. I am happier!

Getting up so early in the morning can be daunting when you just want to stay cuddled up in a warm bed. So, I focus on how it will make me feel and how productive and happy I will be. I also focus on the social aspect of it.  There are a bunch of other people who routinely hit the gym at 5am too.  Even though I do not talk to anyone, they become motivators for me. I know they will be there and if they can get themselves out of bed to workout, so can I. I know that I am not alone in this crazy endeavor. They are my support, even if they do not know it.

Coupled with my early gym activity is the fact that I joined Weight Watchers to help me RESET my eating habits. WW works for me because its flexible and the focus is on healthy eating/good decisions.  For me to eating healthy, I need to plan and prepare – something I often help my clients work on. Also, logging what I eat keeps me more mindful about what I am putting in my body. I don’t really believe in dieting, I believe in eating a balanced diet. So when I get stuck on the cycle of eating too much sugar or eating mindlessly or because I am bored. The WW plan helps me get that behavior on track while maintaining some balance too.

When the weekend comes, it is easy to go off the rails (sometimes I just need/want to) but I make that decision consciously. Most weekends I don’t want to write down what I am eating and I want to sleep in. So I do just that but I still try to make choices with intention instead of with self-indulgence. Life is about balance. You can be healthy and enjoy life. They are not mutually exclusive. You don’t have to be gluttonous to be happy.

So Monday is my reset day. When the weekend has gone to the birds and I am bloated and feeling lazy. I know that on Monday, I will wake up early, go to the gym, and eat a sensible breakfast and lunch. If I can make good decisions early in the day, I have a better chance of continuing those healthy behaviors and feeling physically and mentally wonderful! It doesn’t always work but tomorrow is ALWAYS a new day to reset.

I don’t write down everything I eat ALL the time; just when I am struggling to get back on track. Each one of us is unique and may have a different solution to our reset plan. That’s great. The key is to have a reset plan for whatever behavior sends you off the rails.

Another reset for me is my schedule. What works for me is to sit down every morning and determine what is most important to get done that day. I look at my schedule for the week and fill in when I can work, when can I walk the dogs, when can I have meetings, etc. Sometimes I just go on autopilot and miss some things that are important to me OR I spin my wheels. This morning ritual is good to keep me on track and get me back on track when I have skipped it one too many times.

Never think failure.

This is life and it’s messy.  That’s the fun!

Just have a personal reset plan.


Note from Kim:

If you need help developing your own reset plan, email me to schedule a conversation so I can learn a little more about you and what you want to do. 

March is Healthy Nutrition Month



The Transition and Progress of March
I think of March as a month of transition. You know…”In like a lion. Out like a lamb”.

BUT, transitions are hard for many people. The status quo is comfortable but life is rarely still and stagnant. The only constant in life is change, whether we like it or not. If for nothing else, we age and for that reason alone, we change. What worked for us at 18, may not work for us at 40. This is scary and frustrating for many but it can be fun too. We can reinvent ourselves. We can try new things that may suit us better in our current stage.

Instead of thinking of life-changing events as scary and difficult, look for the joy in it. This something new and maybe actually be something BETTER.

I think that’s the draw for New Years Resolutions. The new year gives each of us an opportunity to redefine our future and to create a fresh start, if we choose to do so.

For those of you who made New Years Resolutions, how are are they going so far?  What have you learned? What went well? What did not go well? What obstacles got in your way? What supports could be put in place to overcome those obstacles in the future? What did you like? What did you NOT like? There is no failure! Only learning opportunities. Each time we learn, we are making progress. So reflect on your experiences and appreciate them for what they are…steps forward and an important part of personal growth.

Sharing for Clarity and Empowerment: Please comment below, talk to a friend, or write your answers in a journal. 

#1 New Years Resolution: Eating Healthier
According to the Statistic Brain website, the number one resolution people make is to eat healthier/lose weight.  (click here for more resolutions statistics)

In my experience, the reason people fail to implement healthier eating habits, or lose weight, is because they go for an all or nothing approach. Unfortunately, when we do this, most of us will feel deprived because we haven’t adjusted to our “new” lifestyle. In order to make long-term and sustainable change, we need to do a little at a time, learn from those experiences, and apply what we learned to harder and more challenging changes.

Starter Tips for eating healthier

 #1 Sugar Elimination

One of the first steps a person can take when deciding to improve their diet is to minimize or eliminate sugar. I might suggest minimizing first, then eliminating as progress is made physically and mentally.  For example, use half the sugar you normally would in your coffee for a few weeks then reduce again and again until you can drink your coffee with no sugar. It may take time but remember there is no rush if you want to do it right.

 #2 Better Prepared Foods

Another first step is to reduce the amount of processed food you eat or replace with healthier versions. No matter what, it is always best to cook your own food. However, this is another thing that is not meant to be done overnight. You have to adjust your tastebuds and find the replacement products you like best. I recommend replacing one food item each time you go to the grocery store. You can use apps such as:

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ShopWell: This app gives you healthy eating suggestions based on your preferences. For example, if you are gluten intolerant, it will give suggestions on foods you can eat. http://www.shopwell.com


Fooducate: This app will tell rate the quality of your food based on the ingredients and give you suggestions for improvement. In addition, you can use it to track what you are eating. http://www.fooducate.com


Stay tuned, I am working on a sugar elimination program to help you jump start your healthy eating lifestyle. If you think you are interested in learning more, please sign up at this link below.

Yes, I want to know more about your Sugar Elimination Program

If you find that you need more support and more help, please contact me to discuss coaching options. Email: kimberlysmanning@icloud.com


A letter for my daughter


On January 31, 2018, my daughter sent me this draft of her declaration for her english class at school.  Proud doesn’t begin to express how I feel. For all our daughters and ourselves, I share with you the words of a powerful and strong young woman.


January 30, 2018

A Letter for My Daughter

by Jordan Manning


“Jordan, that’s not ladylike.”

I’m sorry, I’m 8-years-old. I’m not a lady yet.

“Jordan, you throw like a girl.”

What are you talking about? Tom Brady throws like me.

“Jordan, you’re such a delicate flower.”

What does that mean? Flowers can’t do anything. They just sit there and look

pretty until someone plucks them and they slowly die. I’m not a flower.

“Jordan, that wasn’t very polite.”

I thought I was supposed to stand up for myself?


Society, don’t you dare try and change my daughter.

You’ve tried to change me so many times. You’ve even been successful once or twice.

But she’s the future and she’s where change starts.

Society, your standards for women have become a tool for oppression.

A self-conscious devil on the shoulder, reminding girls where you think they belong.

Society, you need to change.


In middle school, my friend was asked to change her shirt at the nurses office

because her shoulders were showing.

She missed the rest of science class.


Why is it my friend’s fault if her bare shoulders are distracting?

She was born that way. Telling her to hide herself from the rest of the class is not a

solution to a problem. Teaching girls to hide and shrink themselves is to say that we

were born the wrong way.

There’s something wrong with us?

How about we raise our boys to not be distracted by a girls shoulders.

There is nothing sexy or provocative about a shoulder.

So was my friend really the problem?

Every time we force girls to make themselves change in order to make up for our

inability to correct society, more problems erupt.

Why is a girl’s education less important because she has to leave class to change while

boys, who caused the concern in the first place, can remain in class?

Boys will be boys .

And girls will be whatever we need them to be.


Freshman year, my health teacher taught the girls in my class how to hold a solo cup in a

way that our hands protected the cup from roofies.

She told us to never lose sight of our drinks at a party.

She told us that of all the girls in the class, statistics showed that at least one of us would

be sexually assaulted in college.


Dear Society,

Stop training girls to adapt to the way you have allowed America to become.

Don’t prepare girls for college.

Don’t prepare girls for the real world.

Teach college how to behave.

Teach the real world respect and equality.

You told me:

Take small bites.

Salads are attractive.

Makeup is attractive.

Look good, feel good.

Carbs are the enemy.

It’s a man’s world.

Did I mention makeup is attractive?

Society, why are there standards in the first place.

If I don’t follow this etiquette am I below standard?


To my daughter,

Go on a date and eat the biggest burger on the menu.

Go to prom without makeup.

Wear sweatpants to school.

Practice the bench press until it is truly impressive.

Eat your favorite pasta like an animal.

Be the first female President of the United States.

Use your outside voice.

Rise above hate.

Be a strong woman.

Be polite, but stand up for yourself and others.

Play sports. You and I are a team.

Don’t be a delicate flower. Be a cactus.

Don’t worry about being ladylike. Be kind.

Don’t let American society change you.

You were born perfect.


Show off your shoulders.

Celery Juice for Gut?

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As many of you know, my gut rules my world. It seems to react to so many foods and emotions. For me, one minute my stomach can feel malleable and relaxed and the next hard and swollen, like a balloon. It’s really uncomfortable physically and clothes don’t fit right.

Because of this, I am always looking for ways to reduce my sensitivity to foods, reduce inflammation, and feel better.

Your gut health can be affected by what you eat, your emotions and stress, bacteria/viruses, and dis-ease. In my experience, your gut symptoms are RARELY being caused by one thing. You gotta work on the big picture; and it takes work.

Recently, I read the Medical Medium by Anthony William. If you haven’t heard of it, it is a fascinating read. With regard to gut issues, he recommends drinking fresh celery juice first thing in the morning. According to Anthony, “celery strengthens hydrochloric acid in the gut and provides mineral salts to the central nervous system. ”

The first time I tried the celery juice, my gut felt so good. The swelling went down and it really functioned better. He had me sold. I did it every day for a week, then slowly decreased to about 3 times a week; which is where I am today.  It has really helped me feel better, digest my food better, and have fewer instances of inflammation/swelling. I even started following some of his other advice with great success. I have also noticed that I am not reacting to as many foods. Go figure!

If you have ANY gut issues, try the celery juice. You can juice yourself or find a juice bar.

If you want to learn more about gut health and other chronic illnesses, read Medical Medium.  You just might find a treatment that works beyond prescription drugs and expensive treatments.

Be Well!


Daylight Savings


In case you didn’t know, I DESPISE Daylight Savings Time. Yes, it’s easier to adjust in the fall but I still hate it. Our society has enough problems getting enough quality sleep, we don’t need something making it worse. My inner crazy lady thinks it’s a conspiracy to keep all of us hard-working people a little off-balance.

What I do know is that my pets cannot tell time and neither did my kids when they were young. They run on internal clocks that we mess up twice a year and it just wreaks havoc.  Now, it’s hard enough to get a teenager up, but this hour earlier thing is brutal. They are exhausted and not meant to be up this early. Heck, it messes me up for weeks trying to get back to my “normal” routine.


This year, I am trying something new because I was inspired by my friend, Carol. She decided to just get up and not go back to sleep for the hour. Now she is using that extra hour in the morning to meditate, something she struggled to do before. No changing her internal clock, no struggle…just peace.

With that inspiration, I got out of bed this morning at 4:45am and got myself ready for the gym. I worked out and was back home before I had to wake my son up. It was great! I didn’t feel like going to the gym but getting the exercise done early gave me more time in my work schedule and I have felt energetic all day.  It was a win-win.

By dinner, I am sure I will be exhausted and my lights will go out even earlier, which is quite embarrassing already.  Deciding to use the change in time to my benefit is much better than trying to adjust my body’s clock. Maybe my clock will change naturally or maybe I will find that I like getting up earlier and getting my day started with some exercise. Time will tell.

What I do know is it feels much better to look on the bright side of this terrible situation and turn it into something beneficial. There is always another perspective or choice to make.

Like making lemonade out of lemons.

What could you use that extra hour for if you didn’t sleep in?



Recently, my daughter turned me onto the Chill App.  This app sends you a positive message every morning and sends reminders during the day to breathe, relax, take inventory of your emotions or stress, etc.

At first, I was not interested. The last thing I want are more reminders, alerts, and noises from my phone. However, she insisted. What teenager likes positive self-help stuff? So, I tried it. Besides, it would give us some common ground.

I have to say I REALLY like it. I love the quote every morning. I am finding the little IMG_5086reminders throughout the day to be exactly what I needed. They are not invasive or annoying. They are actually helping me. I hear the “ding” and think “oh, I should take a breath” or “am I tightening my shoulders or clenching my jaw?” or “is my mind obsessing over some thought or event?”

This application really can help you become more mindful and more aware of stress acting on the body.

If a high school student can find a benefit in it, maybe you can too.

Try it and let me know what you think?

Let’s make the world a better place, one simple moment at a time.