“After Losing 100 LBS Precious is Actually Gorgeous!”
This is a headline in today’s yahoo feed. Some media outlet actually wrote an article about actress Gabourney Sidibe’s weight loss and somehow thinks it has anything to do with her looks. She has always been beautiful and talented. She has a tremendous smile and gorgeous eyes. Shame on you for not seeing it. Stop focusing on weight as a sign of beauty. One has nothing to do with the other.
This is a subject that has been on my mind lately….the linking of beauty and weight, and this article just set me off. These two things are completely separate and one has no bearing on the other. One is a subjective opinion and one is about health.
A person’s beauty is multi-dimensional. Beauty comes from eyes, a smile, a laugh, a good sense of humor, an openness to others, a kindness of heart. Beautiful people come in all shapes and sizes. You want to be with them. They are the light in a room. They are not the size of their jeans.
They say beauty comes from within and the more people I meet, the truer those words stand. I have met women that are sexy, attractive and adored by all, who are not some perfect weight that society seems to create. Beautiful women can be ANY size and we have to stop letting the media define beauty (especially because everyone is photoshopped).
And, by the way, women need to stop attacking each other. Skinny women get harassed for their weight as much as overweight women do. I have a friend who struggles to gain weight and I can’t count how many insensitive, hurtful, and mean things people say to her because of her thin frame. They think it’s okay to say things because she is thin but the comments make her feel bad. Her whole family is skinny. She is just made this way. She is also kind, loving, and would give you the shirt off your back. Her heart is one of the biggest I know but some people only see her weight. It’s terrible that our society judges people based on looks. Whether someone is “skinny” or “overweight”…it’s really not okay to judge or make rude comments.
Beauty is not a number on a scale.
What can be attributed to a number on a scale is health. However, each person has their personal range that is considered healthy for them. Doctors may use BMI as a tool but really each person has their own range. Each body is different with different muscle masses, different metabolisms, different frames, and different ages. Your healthy weight is between you and your healthcare practitioner. Not anyone else. Weight is also not the end-all-be-all for health. It is just a component of health. A weight that is healthy for me, might be too high for one person and too low for another.
Don’t let the media convince you that you have to be a size 2 to be beautiful or that women who are a size 12 are not beautiful. It has nothing to do with it.
Just be your damn sexy, incredible self!